Sunday, September 28, 2014

What is it, about men and sports?

What is it, about men and sports?

Like seriously, I would like to know, from some of you real men out there, why you forget about everything else that exits when you are thinking about / watching / planning sports? 

The kids can be going crazy around you - you don't notice. 

Your wife is running around trying to get everything done even though it's the weekend and she'd love to plonk herself down with a good book - but you don't notice. 

Said wife starts banging cupboard doors and slamming things down on the table in front of you - still, nothing permeates.

Dinner is on the table - very slight reaction to the possibility of food. Need I continue? (I would like to say, at this point, that yes, I am talking largely about myself here but am hoping that more than one other woman will relate - please tell me I'm not alone!).

And I would love to hear from you real women out there, who live with such real men, on how you manage life with these guys that I know you love with all your hearts?

Please don't get me wrong, I love my man to bits. I'm just trying to understand one of these "men are from Mars, women are from Venus" differences.

So anyway, I don't really have anything to add at this point other than I'm extremely interested in reading you, and I am seriously in need of a glass of red wine!

Kia kaha! Be strong!

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Why do I write?

Yeah - why do I write? It's a question many people have asked me, and which I have asked myself more than once. I often tell myself, "heck, what's the point?". I mean, there are so many blogs out there, what more could I have to say? But then I'm like, well that's a pretty self-demeaning thing to say... And my blog is partly about just that, finding my voice as a Mum, but also as a human being trying to find her way on this planet and in this mayhem of life options and journeys.

Then last week, honest and inspiring blogger Angela at The Sponge wrote about why she wrote, and asked me if I'd be keen to be part of this blog nomination chain thing where you tell everyone who's interested in reading you why you write. I love reading Angela's blogs. She's honest and straight up and I can often relate to her. So I was more than keen to take up the challenge. Yes! I thought. Here's a good excuse to really think about this.

Anyway, I better get to the list of questions I'm supposed to be answering!

Why do I write?

I guess for me, writing has always been about just that: thinking more deeply about things. There's a kind of magic that goes on between my brain, my heart and my fingers when it comes to writing. Once things are written down, I see everything more clearly! I so wish I had the energy to get up and write in the middle of the night when my brain is going round and round in circles. Sigh - the sad truth is I can't lift my head off the pillow or dare to wake up my husband in the process. And so the thin threads of inspiration, the faint hue of clarity which are teasing me at the horizon of my brain disappear into dark slumber. And I wake up in the morning thinking, "darn, that would have been an awesome blog post! or an awesome poem!"

How does my writing differ from others in its genre?

Well that's a hard one to answer because I haven't read all the blogs out there. But, I guess I write as I would talk to you if we were face to face. I want to feel close to my readers, and them to feel close to me.

How does my writing process work?

Usually I'm most inspired when sitting in a cafe people watching and drinking good quality coffee. You know, the "well-balanced just the right heat" kind of coffee. I'll sit there with my notebook and hand write my posts first usually, then type it up when I have some time, add gorgeous photos, and put my article online. There are only a very few cafes where I find inspiration.

I always have blog article ideas going around in my head, and quite a few that I have started writing and will finish at a later date. Often, I'll just sit there, sip my coffee and the words just flow out of me. I've always been complimented on my writing and always had great marks on my essays. I've written poems since I was 8 years old. I just love writing. It's something that comes naturally to me.

What am I working on?

Well, nothing really, other than what I'm writing to you right now. I don't have any other big writing projects on the go, but I do dream of writing a book one day. I sometimes tell people that "I have a book in me somewhere, but I haven't found it yet". Exciting!


Why do I write what I do?

First and foremost, I write for myself. Because I need to. Because I become this miserable frustrated grumpy person when I don't.

Secondly, I write in the hope that laying myself bare on the big public platform will help and encourage you, my reader. That you will not feel so alone in your struggle with weight loss or depression or parenthood. That you will find inspiration for yummy food.


And now it's nomination time!

While I happily volunteered to be tagged on The Sponge, I'm a little uncomfortable about tagging someone else. I would however love love love to hear why my very long time friend Abby, who is an amazing Missionary Mum, writes. I would also love love love to read why my sweet friend Elisabeth writes. So if you're keen to play along, ladies, and would like to tell us why you write (to post next Monday), let me know and I'll add a link to your blogs!